Flowers and rambles.
I’m going to Nova Scotia for the weekend. I love the province, but I’m dreading the trip–it’s my grandmother’s 80th birthday and her sons are having a family gathering. I’ve met 95% of these particular relatives either a couple of times or never, and the panic disorder is going to have a field day at a gathering of people with whom I’m not familiar. I can’t explain anything to my parents, either, because they don’t get it; to them, these people are related to me therefore I should a) want to see them; b) be comfortable in their presence. I do want to see both of my grandmothers, neither of whom I’ve visited in over a decade, but still, given the choice, I’d stay home in a heartbeat. The rest is too much stress for me right now.
I’m panicking already (and my mom’s response to that was “You’re going to need to just get over it somehow”), so I need to shut up and move on to something else. Like flowers. I took some photos this afternoon while wandering around the garden: a daisy, a bleeding heart branch, some greenery, petunias, and an unidentified pink flower.





And an attention-seeking Samson, for good measure:

Our almost-18-year-old Cookie is, as far as we can figure, completely deaf now, which just adds to the other age-related problems he’s having. I know he’s nearing the end of his life, but I can’t bear to lose him–I wish I could tell if he was in pain, because it would make the decision that’s coming so much easier. He’s been such a good cat and he doesn’t deserve to suffer, but he still gets up in the morning and goes outside to do his morning patrol around the house, the same as he’s been doing all his life; it makes me wonder how much time he has left, and if having him put down would be depriving him of at least one more summer he could spend lying in the sun on the deck and doing what cats do best.
And when I start feeling guilty about one thing, then the rest is soon to follow… that I still owe money to a friend I haven’t seen in four years, that I wasted an entire basket of strawberries because I forgot about them and they went bad in the fridge, that I’m not done my education yet, that I spend too much on yarn, that I couldn’t get rid of the ich parasite in my aquarium and lost some of the fish to it, that my room is in dire need of cleaning, that I’d rather spend time alone than with certain people who make it known that they want to spend time with me, that I get annoyed when I find clumps of falling-out Cookie fur all over my bedsheets, that I’ve missed deadlines and let people down, that I can’t staple my mouth shut and learn to manage my weight like a normal person, and even that I feel guilty about everything. That’s right, I feel guilty about feeling guilty. Should’ve warned you all I was a screwball months ago, yeah?
I’m going to bed.

























